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Anonymous asked: I'm a freshman and I've been at college for about a week and a half. I am already having minor roommate issues. My roommate has "insomnia" and she is either up studying WITH OUR LIGHTS ON until 3 am, or she is out until 3 am and then she comes in the room. This all happens on school nights. I feel bad because there isn't really anywhere else for her to study, but I can't be up all night when I have class. Other little things that happen bother me too. Should I get a single next semester?
i’m sorry you’re having roommate problems already! and yes, your roommate may have insomnia: “trouble falling asleep or staying asleep”. my anxiety sometimes gives me insomnia because i sometimes can’t do either or.
i would talk to your RA about it, and most likely they will suggest you talk to your roommate (as i do too). maybe ask your RA if they can moderate at the end of the conversation you’ll have with your roommate, and they can offer up suggestions on what you two can do to co-exist.
but yes, talk to her. tell her that you understand she has problems falling asleep, but that it has been affecting your sleep as well. don’t approach her in a way that is attacking her. if you feel comfortable bringing up the insomnia, you can also use this time to bring up the other things that bother you as well. still don’t attack her about it. just explain that you want to work things out in a way that you and she will be able to co-exist best.
and i wouldn’t get a single. there will be times in your life where you absolutely need roommates (i.e. apartments that cost $600 a month to live by yourself vs. $300 a month to live with 3 other people), and you can’t just decide after you have issues with them that you’re going to live by yourself. if you have issues with siblings or your parents, you don’t immediately move out do you? you work through it and make adjustments to your life.
i hope everything works out :)